Love, Karma, and Fulfillment

Imagine a lover who actually pays attention to your needs; someone who is responsive to your touch, aware of your moods . . . someone who is encouraging, inspiring, for the most part non-judgmental, who listens to what you say, reaches out when you're feeling blue. Someone who is . . .

Awake.

Imagine a relationship in which your self-esteem is strengthened rather than crushed, your sense of security enhanced, your sense of purpose encouraged . . . a relationship with a partner who says "be who you are, because I will be here".

Imagine it.

Many people, sadly, cannot imagine it. Their history has been littered with too many disappointments, too many lies and half-truths, emotions that are changeable, triggers long hidden that are quickly (and unexpectedly) pulled, old wounds reborn . . . this in addition to the tides of change possibly raging from the outside world -- money, war, job loss, illness.

It's not easy to be in love.

But I believe you can LEARN to be a better partner (and therefore increase your chances of finding your beloved), just as I believe you can learn to be a better tennis player or violinist. There are a few "skills" which go a long way in helping allow that to happen: active listening is one of the most important.

For psychics, one of the biggest problems most young or amateur psychics have is they can't detach when something "reminds" them of something else. They may have a vague notion of someone and that "someone" reminds them of another person from their past -- a person who may illicit certain emotions in the psychic (due to their shared history) that "distort" the ability of the psychic to be fully present and see that individual "as they are".

Most of us can probably see how this relates to relationships; one of the partners hears something that triggers The History Channel to suddenly turn on and, before long, the emotions coming to the surface have nothing to do with what's being said -- they are, instead, reactions to something from the past . . . not so good, of course, for the present.

Listening skills, in combination with a sense of calmness (which can also be enhanced through a concentrated. focused effort), increase the likelihood that your reactions to your partner are grounded in a positive "NOW" as opposed to a battleground of memories and old baggage that will soon distort and potentially cripple the current bonds you may have.

Over the next few weeks I will continue to write brief pieces about relationships and personal growth. All of us can find love -- ONCE WE STOP looking for it to be our "answer". No other person can love YOU enough to make you love YOURSELF. That is something only you can do . . . and until that happens, no partner will EVER be "it".

But, little by little, you CAN work to maximize your "love potential" and increase the probability of love and happiness walking in to your life . . . and staying for awhile. More to come . . .

For everyone in this magical year of 2011, I do, truly, wish you LOVE :)